Yes but....
“I don’t have the body to wear that…” and other false excuses that we lovingly dismantle ❤️
At Spit It Out , we often hear the same little inner voices—or social voices—that hold back desires, stifle wishes, and sabotage self-esteem. Today, we've decided to take them one by one—with gentleness, kindness, and a touch of rebellion—to tell you: you have the right to exist, to desire, to play. Now. Not tomorrow.
And it's not just a question of style. It's political. In a world that invisibilizes, normativizes, and judges LGBTQIA+ bodies, daring to love yourself, to show yourself, to dress according to your desires, is already a form of resistance.
1. “I don’t have the body to carry that…”
Too fat, too skinny, too hairy, not young enough? Stop. These judgments come from a system that has always wanted to control our queer bodies. At Spit It Out, all bodies are beautiful . And most importantly: all bodies are legitimate .
Our selections are designed to accommodate the diversity of body shapes , far from oppressive standards. Wearing a harness or a jock is not reserved for an aesthetic elite: it is a way to reclaim your body as a place of joy and pride .
💬 Loving each other is political. And it starts here.
2. “I don’t have the budget…”
We know: not everyone has the same means. But self-expression should never be a luxury. That's why we've implemented:
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A second-hand, ethical and affordable section ,
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Inexpensive, stylish and affordable pieces ,
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Tips for putting together your outfit at your own pace , without pressure.
💬 Dignity isn't measured by the size of your wallet. You deserve to shine, no matter your budget.
3. “I have to ask my partner first…”
Your body belongs to you. Your desires belong to you. In a healthy relationship, listening is important—but so is autonomy.
To assert yourself, even gently, even timidly, is to claim your right to exist as a queer individual . And that changes everything. Because by daring to be yourself, you also open the way for others.
💬 Taking ownership of your desires is already fighting against norms.
4. “I’m not 'fetish' enough…”
No membership card or "validated" look required. Fetish isn't a closed club, but a free playground. Whether you're curious, exploring, or simply drawn to a material, a style, or an atmosphere, you're eligible.
💬 Allowing yourself pleasure is subversive. And it's beautiful.
In summary
Opening up to yourself, dressing according to your desires, looking at yourself with kindness... it's far from futile. It's an intimate and collective revolution. In a world that teaches us to hide, daring to be yourself is a radical act .
At Spit It Out , that's what we're here for. To welcome you, to support you, to celebrate you.
👉 Because your body is not a problem to be fixed.
👉 Because your desires are not shameful.
👉 Because you have the right to exist, fully.
What if today we started by choosing ourselves?